The Dailymum has kindly passed on a meme to help me celebrate myself this Mothering Sunday. These are the questions:
Describe Motherhood in three words
Enervating. Enriching. Unglamorous.
Does your experience differ from your mother’s? How?
I didn’t nag her for iPads, Rihanna and Ralph Lauren. My mother was a 1970s rarity – a full–time career woman. It was my father who fetched us from school and scorched our corned beef fritters. Whereas I wedge my career in amongst school hours and launder infant underwear between deadlines.
What’s the hardest thing about being a mum?
The guilt and the fear. Guilt that you are not feeding them, schooling them, entertaining and encouraging them as perfectly as they deserve. Fear that calamity will claim them.
What’s the best thing?
When they are silently asleep. Only when I watch them lying trustingly on their pillows, well-fed and well-cleaned, do I feel a fully successful mother - especially if I’ve remembered to wash the sheets.
How has it changed you?
This is where I say that it has made me more patient; more giving; more understanding. But it would be a lie. It has made me irascible. I flee from my children when they bore me. I garden when I should be feeding them and blog when they should be in bed. I skimmed a page of mother quotes in the hope of identifying a quality I could claim, but they were all irritating or vainglorious, except for the Spanish proverb: ‘an ounce of mother is worth a pound of clergy’, which I could use when the Vicar bunks the washing up. But motherhood has developed in me cunning - useful for ensuring pea consumption and for turning a loo roll tube into any farm animal.
What do you hope for your children?
A courageous mind, a generous spirit and a contented home. With a nice annexe in it for me.
What do you fear for them?
What makes it all worthwhile?
My son searching ‘I love my Mummy’ on Amazon.
I'm supposed to tag more mothers, but I'm not sure there's time. Motherventing, Kateonthinice and Katetakes5 have you done this one?